Friday, April 3, 2015

Shadows in my room

I am a child, a five year old child. I get scared by the shadows in my room. My mama takes me by the hand and tells me that there is nothing to be scared of. I don't believe her. She says there are no monsters here. I cannot agree with her. I feel that there is a giant behind the curtain and a witch underneath the bed. Despite mama's soothing words, I feel antsy whenever the lights are turned off. I keep the night light turned on. It helps little as it creates looming lurking shadows everywhere.

I grow up in years. I stop fearing the dark. I hold my grandpa's hands and walk down the streets at night to watch ram-leela (stage performance of the story of the great epic Ramayan). There are kids around me, there is chatter everywhere. Minutes pass, sometimes hours as we watch the saga of Rama and Ravana. Night seems to be fun. Stars twinkle above in the mighty sky, winking at me. They are my friends in the dark. They smile at me every night. When I reach home, my room welcomes me. Dim night light becomes my ally as I play with my fingers to make shadow-puppets on the wall. I make the shadows grow big and small. I giggle. It is fun to play with the dark and light.



Years pass. I am a grown-up now. My mama is often scared of the dark now. She insists that I be home before darkness falls. I can understand her fears. There are unseen shadows outside, with dark, infernal thoughts. I return home before my mama wastes herself with worry. Shadows in my room remain friendly, filling my world with the much-needed solace a tiring day has failed to provide. 

I grow more in years, get married, become a mom. I see my baby crawling into the dark rooms fearlessly. As he grows up, he faces my friend shadows which he finds dreadful. I comfort him as my mama used to when I was little. He gradually realizes there is nothing to be scared of but still wants to have the night light switched on. I do that as I have a feeling of deja vu. I have been there, done that.

I empathize with him. I try to tell him there is nothing to be scared of in the dark. But I am scared now. When his dad is not around, when the house is so quiet. I wonder why the lights on the earth have made the stars above disappear. I miss their amicable twinkle. From outside I hear sounds that nobody seems to be making. I see shadows that are diabolical. I try to find peace in the shadows in my room. They help me forget the gloomy world outside, for sometime.

I am afraid of the dark. But I do not want to share my fears with my child. I tell him to be brave and fearless. We make shadow puppets. The night passes. He sleeps. I stay awake till I am too tired to worry. Tomorrow will be another day, another dawn.

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Wednesday, April 1, 2015

Smile - It makes life beautiful...

Today is All Fool's Day. Playing pranks on each other, making up silly jokes, creating hoaxes - these are all part of this day's tradition which has its roots in France. April Fool's day is a day to smile, to laugh, to act silly. So for this day, I thought of sharing with you 5 quotes on Smile that will make your day. We do not need a reason to smile, but in today's world where people are being overburdened by depressive thoughts, it is imperative to remind them to wear that priceless ornament on their faces.

Act goofy today, and smile! Life is too precious to be wasted away in worries.....

 1) A smile is the light in your window that tells others that there is a caring, sharing person inside.- Denis Waitley

How do you feel when you are caught in the middle of a snarling traffic congestion? It seems like it will drive you crazy. You look around, fretting. A fellow driver in the car next to yours looks at you and despite the maddening atmosphere, gives you a smile which seems to say, 'Hey bro, we are sailing in the same ship'. That smile is infectious. You smile back. You forget the annoying honk of horns. You just relax, if only for a second. What did that smile do to you? It made you feel that you are not alone. Do you need any more reason to spread happiness today?

2) Wear a smile and have friends. Wear a scowl and have wrinkles - George Eliot

So, wear your brightest most cheerful look everyday. People like to be surrounded by those who give positive vibes. They feel that they are welcome when you show off your happy face. And your fan-list and popularity multiplies. When you spread cheer, you are never alone. Your face is your mirror. When you grow old, the lines on your face will show how much you smiled, how much you frowned. 

3) Use your smile to change the world; don’t let the world change your smile. - Anonymous

Things don't seem to be working your way. You crib, complain, criticize. The culture of abuse gets better of you but at the end of the day, you feel completely wasted. That is what happens with negative thoughts. Nothing has changed except you yourself who has become a sulking talker. Try to change this today. Remember the movie Lage Raho Munna Bhai. What does Munna say to the guy who is pissed off with the spitting behavior of his neighbor. Give him a smile and make him realize what he is doing. Change the world with your smile. 

चाक़ू ना पिस्तौल ना खंजर ना कोई तलवार रे 
इक मुस्कान की देखो ताकत अपना नया हथियार रे 
(Lines from the background music that plays in Lage Raho Munna Bhai during this scene.)

4)If someone is too tired to give you a smile, leave one of your own, because no one needs a smile as much as those who have none to give.
Author Unknown

So true! If someone has forgotten to smile, how lost is his/her soul. We ought to help him. Imagine a situation when you are feeling lonely. Would you not appreciate a kind word, a gentle touch, a caring smile. How utterly devastated would you feel if there was no one to love you, or cheer you up.
I remember my grandmother used to say - If you don't sew torn clothes and if you don't cheer up someone who is angry with you, then life can't go on smoothly. (She used to say this in Hindi - फटे को सीओ ना और रूठे को मनाओ ना , तो काम नहीं चलता 
So, go ahead. Let the sulking person complain. Your job is to drop a smile. 


5) If you are not using your smile, you are like the man with the million dollars in the bank and no checkbook - Les Giblin

What use is a thing if you own it but don't know what to do with it? A few days back I wrote a short story in which people did not know how to smile. A small insignificant thing was enough to mend the course of their lives. (You can read the story here - http://istoppedtosmellarose.blogspot.com/2015/02/how-sulky-town-became-happy.html
But often times, people get so worked up with their work, their ambitions, their dreams that they forget to appreciate what they have. They forget to value the present moment - the only thing that they have in their hand. Please don't do that injustice to yourself. Live every moment. Who knows what the next moment might bring. So smile when you can. You don't need a huge bank balance to make you smile. You only need a beating heart. So go. Brace yourself with a smile. The whole world is yours.


Hope you have a smiling day and a happy life. Remember, we all have ups and downs. When times are tough, tell yourself – This too shall pass!

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Monday, March 30, 2015

Are you aware you are consuming GMOs everday?

I woke up in a confused state of mind today. How you start your mornings defines to a large extent how the day will go by. Mine seems to be going tough. The reason - I don't know if what I am eating and feeding my family is healthy. The reason for not knowing is the unethical approval and non-branding of products containing GMO, edible and otherwise that I use everyday.

Living in a developed country makes you feel that what you are eating is edible and approved by the FDA to maintain the health standards of the country. But it is not the case. Food contamination is occurring in newer forms these days, with the appearance of genetically modified products in the market.

I was naive to think that foods and other products that contain GMO (genetically modified organisms) are labelled for the consumer so that s/he can make an informed choice. But sadly, the proponents of biotechnology have successfully lobbied against the labeling. As a result, we do not know whether we are consuming something that is 'natural' or something that is 'genetically engineered'.

Did you buy GMOs today?


The other day, while watching the Dr. Oz show, I found out that the USDA (US Department of Agriculture) has approved the production of Arctic Apples - the first genetically modified apple that will not turn brown when sliced. I wondered why this was needed. Is aesthetics more important than health? Is it worth to trade health for beauty? Those who claim that no harm is done to the consumer should question themselves again. Our entire nature is being polluted.

GMOs are all about manipulation. When the gene of a living organism is artificially modified and when such living organism is used to further mutate the genetic structure of the plant, it causes an unnatural balance. Use of GMOs also increases the utilization of harmful herbicides and insecticides which further create herbicide-resistant 'super weeds' and 'super bugs'. When I read all this, I wonder how the brain of scientists functions. First, with their experiments, they play with nature. Then, they produce things that are 'engineered' and pose health hazards as well as threats to nature. Then, they get busy in finding solutions to these hazards that they made with their own hands. It is like running in a circle of absurdity, surreal and treacherous.

I was surprised to learn that 80% of the things we eat and use everyday have been genetically modified. And it is not mandatory in US to label products if they have GMO. So, most of the cooking oils that we use have GMO. The crops that have most commercial usage, like corn and soybean, fruits like papaya, vegetables like squash and zucchini have all been genetically engineered. Processed foods containing ascorbic acid, citric acid, food flavorings, vitamins, xanthan gum, high fructose corn syrup, yeast products - they all contain GMOs.

I am stunned. I thought that being a vegetarian, and filling my platter with fruits and vegetables made be less prone to disease. But I have to dig deeper and find out a non-GMO alternative to whatever I eat. I feel happy if food does not spoil easily and has a longer shelf-life. But if that is because of some genetic manipulation, I would rather discard it. I am ready to take multiple trips to the market to buy fresh fruit and vegetable everyday rather than stock up my refrigerator with 'artificial' foods.

The easiest, though expensive, solution to this big problem is to go organic. I had debated long over the 'nutritional' benefits of organic products. Even the kids' pediatrician was double-minded over this one. But after doing my own reading, I feel that I should start afresh.

GMOs have to be countered by another GMO - Get More Organic.
Also google for the Non-GMO products and brands and start making gradual changes.

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Friday, March 27, 2015

My Bucket List feels Funny.....Do you think so too....?

This post is written for Indiblogger IndiSpire #58

AHH......I sigh a big sigh. How do I compile a list of just 10 things I want to do before I die. I smile, I fidget on my chair. I pick up a pen and jot down some points. I strike off some, then add another. And finally I have this list for you. You will find some things funny, some things silly....But then each person has a mind and taste of his/her own. So bear with me and my list and in the end, just smile.....



10) Invent a Flawless Teether for Babies - I want to make a teether that babies will actually chew upon and leave alone the poor corners of tables and cushions and germy keys and remotes. I have not seen a single baby (two of mine included) satisfied with the best teether that is out there in the market. Maybe one day I will be The Lady who Invented The Best Teether in the Whole World....not just Best.....The Best Working Teether......

9) Read Midnight's Children again - I want to read honorable Mr. Rushdie's Midnight Children again and see if I can make sense out of it. I love magic, Sir and I am fond of realism in literature as well. But when the two combine, Good Lord, my brain goes bananas. But this time, one more time, I will dwell into in really deeply and try to remember what happens when and why....

8) Watch a Broadway show in New York - What's the big deal with that? Ask me. As they say, nearer to Rome, farther than the Church. I live in the vicinity of NY and I have been here nine long years, BUT, and a BIG BUT, I have not been to a single Broadway show. My soul screams....CRIME.....

7) Learn to play The Flight of the Bumblebee on piano - I love the piece, absolutely love it. The peppiness, the liveliness always make me feel like a bumblebee searching for nectar, fluttering my tiny wings and hovering from one flower to another. If you have not heard the piece, google it, and tune into the magic.

6) Visit the home of the Bard - London - Who knows I might meet the soul of the great playwright, Shakespeare as I recite lines from Hamlet, Anthony and Cleopatra and Othello. WOW....gives me the creeps....Oxford University waits to see me too...!

5) Write a post that goes hugely viral - Have you seen a baby who has just learnt to walk. The baby leaps with wobbly stride and seems to conquer the world all at once. Picture me there. A newbie on the blogging screen wanting to go viral all at once. HELP ME PLEASE....!!! Just a few thousand likes and votes!

4) Make the perfect egg-less whole wheat cookies - Well, I did try a few recipes. All failed. Nothing can beat those market-bought packets of atta biscuits that I used to devour. Have you ever tasted the absolutely heavenly tea-dipped exquisite atta-cookies I mention? What, you don't drink tea? What a pity...!!! You must, believe me. Be it cold wintry days or soporific sunny summers, they will delight you. And my search for the perfect recipe continues. Or maybe, recipe is perfect but the cook fails every time....!

3) Teach again - I was a teacher, once. In a college, for a very brief time. Motherhood has made me a teacher 24/7. But I want to go back to the profession again. This time, with kids. Kids are so full of ideas, so full of optimism. They can never fail you. You teach them, and they teach you the lessons of life in return.

2) Write a book on my mom - My mom is my strength. She is an epitome of courage. Her life has been full of bumps. But she stands strong. Her childhood was almost like a fairy tale. All that I write will be in vain if I don't utilize my skills toward writing a memoir on her. I owe my everything to her. I have to do this.

1) Grow old holding my husband's wrinkled hands in my own wasted ones - Yes, I really want this one. When he stoops and I bend, when our bodies dwindle, but our love grows, when our grandchildren come to him to hear the worldly-wise anecdotes from him (he is full of them and I always fall in love with him every time he speaks a beautiful analogy) and when I feed those little tummies with laddoos I learnt from my grandma, life will feel complete.

So you see, this is my bucket list. Life's simple things that will make me great forever. Live life such so that you live forever in the heart of your loved ones. Love to all..!!!


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We will eat Ice-cream.....

Fresh, crisp grass shone everywhere. Spring showers had rejuvenated life again. Winter slumber scurried away as scents from spring flowers loomed in the air sending waves of fresh delight. Nature stood smiling, ready to embrace the little kids coming out of their houses. After all, she too had missed the chirpy companionship of her buddies. 




But one of her companion stood there with no smily curve on his face. He fidgeted and walked uneasily, turning and looking in one direction. It seemed like he was waiting for someone or something. His friends kept calling him, reminding that they did not have a long time to play as they all had to go to work. But he ignored their calls and stood there or just kept pacing to and fro restlessly. 

He was a nine year old boy wearing a tattered blue t-shirt and a dusty shorts. His appearance was far from clean. He might have been working the whole day carrying heavy loads to the truck and back again. It was not his age to work. No, not at all. But it was better to labor and earn bread on a daily basis than die of hunger pangs. He had felt his stomach churn and ache terribly when he had not eaten anything for three days. It had not been easy. He did not have any family. He had to look after himself. 

Summers brought him the sole delight of his life. At least for the past two years, this had been the trend. A chance meeting with baba - the old man who came to the park to sell ice-cream. Baba used to tell him stories. There was always a little boy in all the stories. Baba weaved yarns of fantasy as well as tales of inspiration. He had also taught him to read and write a little. Every single day of summer had been spent with baba. And every single night was spent in the dreams that the mind created out of the stories he heard from him. 

But two days had passed and baba had not turned up this year. Baba used to go away as winters came. He said that he had a family and he would go visit them in winters. It was warm there where his family lived at that time. But baba had been punctual in warm days. Why was he not here? Was he ill? Had something happened to him?

In his anxiety, the little boy headed toward the shanty where baba lived in summers. But baba was not there. Disappointed, the boy retreated to the park. From a distance, he could hear kids hollering for ice-cream. But instead of baba's vending machine, there stood a truck - a food truck selling ice-cream and other snacks. Friends yelled out his name but he was not in the mood to eat anything. Then a voice called out his name, "Vishnu.....kahaani sunega...."(Vishnu...will you hear a story?).

Vishnu's heart skipped a beat. 

It was Baba's voice!
It was baba's truck!!
Baba had come!!! 

There would be summer again in his cold life. There would be warmth again in his frigid heart. He rushed towards him. He tripped and fell down. His knees were bruised as they scraped against the pebbly road. But he did not care. His wounds needed no healing. His heart was repaired and that was all that mattered.

"This time I will tell you a story of an old man who bought a truck for his little son so that he would never have to part from him again, be it summer or be it winter," baba said.

"Every time I went away from you, my heart bled, Vishnu. So this time, I decided we are never going to part. I have worked hard all these years. I have no family but you. When I saw you two years back, it seemed that sun shining above had given me a reason to live. The first time I met you, I saw that you were my life. I don't know why. I might have died without you, I was so utterly wasted at that time. But when I saw you slaving your life away, I decided I would live for you. You will not work now. I will send you to school. Your early childhood is sadly lost. But in the coming years, I will do what I can to keep the sun smiling in your life. If it rains, we will shelter each other. If it is hot, we will eat ice-cream...."

Vishnu smiled. Tears kept flowing. Baba scooped out his favorite mango flavor. Then he sat him down beside him to spin another story.


































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Tuesday, March 24, 2015

All that she wanted was.....

Once upon a time, there was a girl. She was fascinated by the world of words. She wondered how people write so nicely. A poem was enough to mesmerize her, a word was sometimes enough to melt her. A good thought, a good book left her enchanted. For many years she sat, she read, she wondered....

One day, as she took a trip down the memory lane, she felt a sharp urge to pen down what she thought. And some magic happened. No, she did not turn into a prodigy. She just discovered a great sense of satisfaction. She shared her thoughts with some friends who congratulated her on the new journey she had undertaken.

She was happy. She kept committing herself to paper...er....blog. The passion to write was followed by a deep necessity of an audience. Of course, there were friends. But how does she reach out to a bigger circle?

She hunted other blogs. She saw almost everyone having a whopping following, varying within the range of anywhere between 100 and 500, and in some cases, even more...!!!!!

There were bloggers flaunting awards and badges, blogs teeming with comments which proved they were being revered....

PHEW! I need followers on my blog, she thought.  So, she requested friends to 'follow' her, to 'share' her posts. They all promised. A handful actually did what she had requested. She did not ask why. Everyone sure would have a good reason, she thought.

Then there was a long spell of inaction - no, not from her side. It was from the side of her audience. She was confused.

She needed, really...., badly needed something very cardinal, very essential. She needed a good number of ....well......EARS!


Anybody there....?


She wanted people to hear her. She wanted them to hear her so that she could talk to them. She wanted them to hear her in order to get the conversation started.

She looked around. She started hunting again. She held a thorough inquiry, an intense rummaging of random blogs.

The forage led her to a blog where she read....Find me here at blogadda.com and here at indiblogger.in.

Mouth wide open, eyes popped out,  fingers typed hurriedly and she registered at both the sites. The first one responded promptly. The second one took longer than a week which made her send a query mail. The reply came with blog approval.

Once registered, she started posting. Within a week, she found lots and lots of .....you-know-what....EARS.

She is happy now.

She wants to thank blogadda.com and indiblogger.in sincerely.

She thanks in earnest the bloggers who have added her to their network. She is grateful to the fellow-writers who have spared the time to hear her. She is thankful to all those who will add her, read her, hear her in future.


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Sunday, March 22, 2015

I am an Indian - What is my Culture?


This post is written for Indiblogger IndiSpire #57

Religion? Tradition? God? Language? Scripture? Food? Attire???????????

What is Indian Culture…..?


What is Indian culture? I brood and brood and brood. I cannot find a conclusive answer.

I remember my mom narrating stories about the time she was in Europe. She was a child then. My grandfather worked in Indian Foreign Service. My grandmother was an epitome of beauty and grace. She was also the carrier of 'culture' from India to Europe. My mom used to show me pictures of my grandmother wearing the most beautiful Indian sarees and she always wore a big red bindi on her forehead. She was an expert in exquisite Indian dishes. That made me think of culture as the clothes we wear and the foods we eat. 

Then I was reminded of the religious rituals we followed every year. There were certain festivals we celebrated in our own peculiar ways. So, maybe culture is the religion we follow, I thought. But then, it was my culture. I thought about the people who had different belief-systems and celebrated different rituals and festivals while living in India. It was their religion, their culture. Maybe, the fact that we co-existed, and were tolerant as well as respectful to others' faith made us Indian. That was Indian culture.

The question kept on prodding and poking my brain. My mind went on a roller-coaster ride from mythological stories to the good as well as the infamous practices of our ancestors. Everything had been assimilated as Indian culture. If there was sati, there was reform. If there was casteism, there was a Gandhi. At different times, at different places, traditions and practices had defined the values of the society and that had become part of a mega-term which came to be called Indian culture. The notion of 'Indian' came only after the aftermath of colonialism, I guess, when the concept of nationhood emerged. 

So culture was a conglomeration of the many and myriad sub-cultures of the varied section of society. It became a matter of pride and definition when my grandmother donned the traditional Indian attire in front of her European counterparts and made them drool over the mouth-watering 'Indian' delicacies she prepared. But then my grandfather wore 'western' clothes, and that did not make him a non-Indian. In fact, he too was carrying the idea of a welcoming 'Indian' abroad. They both were doing their bit of carrying forward the idea of being an Indian. One stood for assimilation and the other for differentiation. 

I thought about the many languages we speak. I thought of  the scriptures we have read. I thought of the Brahmavadinis who had defined ancient India and the hidden muted women behind the veil in the Mughal era. I thought of the journeys that our ancestors had made at different points in history. These journeys had caused a further mishmash of practices. I pondered over the recent news I had read about Asian men carrying the DNA of the Mongolian ruler Ghenghis Khan.

History abounded in stories of creation, disruption, recreation, rebellion and redefinition. Past narrated stories of change, stories of regression and progress. There was so much that was part of the Indian history that had defined what we are today.

Then, there was the architecture. The caves of Ajanta and Ellora, that monument of love - Taj Mahal, those great centers of learning - the ancient universities of Nalanda and Takshila, the havelis of Rajasthan, the great temples of South, the Sanchi Stupa of Buddha, the great Ashoka pillar of the Mauryan emperor who preached that 'Contact (between religions) is good. One should listen to and respect the doctrines professed by others. Beloved-of-the-Gods, King Piyadasi, desires that all should be well-learned in the good doctrines of other religions.'(Source - Wikipedia, Edicts of Asoka)

I could not find a single, all-encompassing definition for the term 'Indian Culture'. What this investigation did to me however was very uplifting. It made me dig deep into who we are. It made me feel that the people who create divisions in our society in the name of 'Indian Culture' are actually the one who lack the knowledge of what constitutes Indian identity. These are the people who taint the 'culture' by malicious thought. They are not the receptacles of  culture. They are not the custodians of our past. The more they harp on restrictive ideologies, the more our identity will shine. Because we have resilience. Because we can fight back. After all, as Iqbal says

'कुछ बात है कि हस्ती मिटती नहीं हमारी' 

There is something in us that fights back and does not let us die.


I am a flow….I am a process….I keep defining myself….I am what you were and what you will be…..I am your culture.



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